Trying to move on

[ClingingToHope]

CTH,
While I haven't read your entire thread your sitch from the time of the bomb is not that long. I know coming up on a year, but you are not getting a response from your current DBing efforts, have you tried changing and seeing what happens, experiment a little, what do you have to lose. If she is not pushing it then why do it? Can you not "move on" without a piece of paper saying you are no longer married? Pretend you are divorced w/o actually doing it, is that an option? (I will catch up on your entire sitch tonight)

Things for us changed in January 2007 for some reason. I've looked at the timeline and the things going on in our lives. Lots of stresses piling up and she just became very depressed.

Moving on without the piece of paper is a tough one. I don't want to divorce, but I don't want to let my life pass me by. I do not want to date while still married. That, to me, is wrong. And I don't want W to date while we are married. She may already be doing that. She's certainly partying while still married. I've tried to live with that -- and I don't think I can.

Then there's the respect factor. I have no respect for myself. I've been living on eggshells for three years. She sits there telling the girls she's still "deciding." While she's deciding I'm in limboland. While she's "deciding" she's staying out all night on Christmas and New Year's.

I've let this go on long enough. It's time for me to decide. Unless my lawyer tells me I'm better off financially in limboland then I want to move forward.