Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[MHL]

I know my wife and I truly believe she is interested in the changes. Yes my wife is messed up in the head, I say that from a very loving perspective mind you, it just amazes me that she is capable of the behavior.

Yes, I need to distance myself from her. Started tonight, she came over to tuck S9 in bed was here maybe 15 minutes, I did not answer the door (she knocked which was weird, her lawyer's advice???) normally she opens the garage and comes on in. She went upstairs, I only went up there briefly to give S9 asthma meds and came right back down. She came back down, I was ready for R talk, didn't come and we said our goodbyes and she left. I need to maintain a little bit of animosity towards her to help distance myself and do the no contact thing. Short term goal is to not initiate contact for 4 days. I will respond but not initiate.

The postive thing for you, besides the one year thing, is that she is confused (at least one side of her is showing interest). How do you turn that to your advantage?

You said it, time to distance but not ignore, if she contacts respond but only half the words she uses, but be nice. Thats the game plan for now.

Still sucks that I am going to drop a boatload of money on a Lawyer. Rather take a week with her in the Caribbean. Maybe I should tell her that......JK. Time to get down to business.