She wants to have the immediate future better defined for her sanity. She wants the roles defined.(what we will do, how we will act) I think b/c she is not used to me being confident. She did not bring it up tonight though. She normally needs to have a plan of how to continue.
She wants to feel secure. Next time she brings this up, ask her what she thinks would be an ideal M in relation to these areas. Then zip your lips shut and listen.
This could be a good sign:
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She said that she wanted to ML.
And I think you handled it well. In fact, it could have sent the message that you care enough not to jump on that offer at the first hint of it.
She seems like she's reaching out - her email last night and her wanting a plan/outline for how things are going to be. So, give her a platform to tell you what she wants. Ask open ended question to get her talking. Then ask an occasional question to keep her talking.
And, start reading "The Five Love Languages." It sounds like you guys have a problem communicating. That book will open your eyes and teach you how to communicate and listen better.
You mentioned that your W brought that book to you. Has she read it? Has she discussed it with you at all?
