I am going to state the obvious...your wife is very confused. You know my approach, would this be a 180 for you?
I think at a minimum you need to really distance yourself from her and give her a chance to miss you, as well as what she will be losing. Right now, it sounds like she is taking things for granted, including you.
The postive thing for you, besides the one year thing, is that she is confused (at least one side of her is showing interest). How do you turn that to your advantage?
