An update: Getting more and more comfortable with the direction of my relationship w TJ. He has kept up a steady stream of contact, since Xmas. He initiates almost all of it. Hallmarks of the relationship are: 1. developing a friendship first. I think we are there. Our convos are mostly all text, he is more comfortable that way. 2. I lower my expectations every chance I get. Lord, grant me patience,,,, but hurry! 3. I try to match his mood, mode of contact, and the tone. 4. I think he has to be aware that kissing and the almost daily contact seem like we are dating. Not committed, just easy kind exchanges. Today, I sent out a test balloon. I was prepared to be shot down. I asked him to cross his fingers and toes because I want a snow day. He responded quickly. I end the convo before he does. I think this is very important. 5. An air of mystery, holding back full details of my life. Not offering that my vacation plans are with a girlfriend as they are every year, but only that plans are being made. ( an expample of what mystery looks like.) I will answer any direct questions honestly. I justs don't come out and say, I am sitting here waiting for you.
I really really think this is happening. Very ssslllllllooooooooowly.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.