I understand. I WANT her to admit to the A's so that there can be some sort of closure, and the ability to try to move towards MC
SD, you're still getting hung up on thinking your actions will elicit a response from your W - CONTROL. You don't have that control and never have. You have to let go of this b/c she is going to do what she wants to do, no matter what you say or do.
So, does it make it more difficult for her to leave the M if you work on yourself? MAYBE, maybe not. But, it makes YOU a better person and a better father. And most importantly, it makes YOU a better person for YOU.
DB'ing isn't really about saving M's. It's about saving you. And saving YOU may, or may not, increase the odds of her coming back.
I know this may not be what you want to hear. I know I didn't early on. I wanted someone to tell me she was going to snap out of it and that she would come back if I just tried a little harder, improved a little more. But no one can tell you that and mean it.
So, focus on you, for yourself and for your kids. Let go of the rest. Have faith that you are doing teh right thing and that whatever is supposed to be will be.
