Then you have never read my thread if you are certain you have never heard of anybody having it as "bad as you".
My H and dropped the bomb in March of 2008 (and yes, he was in an affair at that time and I had NO CLUE). He moved out in April of 2008 then moved two more times without telling me. The third time he moved was to live with OUR best friends so him and OW could cozy up.
We had a brutal legal battle that ended on Nov. 17, 2009 with a legal separation in place. Despite all of this, the HARD evidence I had, his admission to me and various other things he still, to THIS DAY, tells me he did nothing wrong because in his mind the marriage was over so him having an affair was not wrong. BTW, he is still with his affair almost two years later.
Your WAS is far from unique. And you, as a LBS are not unique either. Guilt, shame and the fear of being caught will help a person do whatever they need to do to justify their actions.
My H still has not told his family the truth about when his affair started.
