Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[MHL]

Okay, new year, holidays are gone time to get my head screwed back on right. I was living in lala land for the last 2 weeks thinking that there was all this positive stuff going on and I am not going to discount the good vibes between my W and I, I am going to have to get down to the business of a serious separation agreement which in my state is the setup for the divorce. The advantage I have is that you have to wait for a year and a day before you can file for D. So I have until Aug 26 2010, long time to do alot of DBing.

I was going to try to work with my W's lawyer for a collaborative sep agreement but my W finally admitted she wants the house and kids which throws a monkey wrench in
the whole thing. Up until now she always said that she wanted me to have the house and kids, should have gotten the agreement then (August 09).

So now I am going to have to spend good money on a lawyer to keep what I already have, the house and the kids. This puts a big damper on the "treating her with unconditional love", I will work through it. I just want to get the whole thing over quickly so it will not be an issue and we can get back to DBing efforts.

By now everyone should know that I am going to look for the positive things in every sitch so here I go. No matter how ugly this process gets I will have many opportunities to do 180's and Act-as-if's. The facebook thing actually turned out good b/c it sparked conversation we have not had in 4 months and she admits wrong doing as do I on the whole bar thing.