Wife wants best of both worlds

[MHL]

Hey Guys,
I have 2 different opinions for both of you, and you know what opinions are like don't you? They are like a$$holes, everyone has one....I have to laugh a little otherwise I would go nuts.

CTH,
While I haven't read your entire thread your sitch from the time of the bomb is not that long. I know coming up on a year, but you are not getting a response from your current DBing efforts, have you tried changing and seeing what happens, experiment a little, what do you have to lose. If she is not pushing it then why do it? Can you not "move on" without a piece of paper saying you are no longer married? Pretend you are divorced w/o actually doing it, is that an option? (I will catch up on your entire sitch tonight)

DW,
I think I agree with you on the D thing in your sitch. Get it over with and then that is one less issue between you guys and unfortunately you will have to see what happens with this guy. Meantime, you can move on mentally and it might help you individually. Can't believe I said that but my sitch changed and I was living in lala land for the last 2 weeks. I will post in my sitch.