Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Ya, but after what happened, I just don't know.

How can I get past all of this now? I just don't know if I can.

I thought I could work through ANYTHING with her, but that would mean she has to work WITH me, and admit to what she has done, and she is completely in denial about doing anything wrong.

Like I wrote earlier, I KNOW for a fact she has been with at least 2 OM. I KNOW this.

She refuses to accept any blame, and would rather walk away and lose our family than have to admit it. I just have to accept that fact, and STOP trying to get her to admit to her faults.

My W has issues, and I am starting to realize that I can't help her with those issues. We talked about them, but she isn't ready to confront them.

I don't want to have false hope, I want to know that what I am doing can HELP bring her home.

When do I just drop the rope and move on? I don't know - yet.