I'm always reading, but I don't chime in that often because I don't always know what to say. I agree with you 100% on how the people on this board have been a big help to get us all through this.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
I am in a very similar situation that you were in a year ago. I just had some time today to go through your thread. Someone suggested that I look you up because our sitch's are so similar. It looks like we did the same things..neglected our wives because we didn't understand their love languages. BTW, our wives LL are the same.
I would appreciate any advice that you could give me because we are so much alike.
Thanks and
Happy New Year
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
I've been traveling for the past few days - took the little thoughts to visit my family. I've been offline and enjoying a bit of a vacation without thinking about my sitch too much.
Mrs. T is has been spending the time taking care of her mom, so we haven't had much contact except for the occsional phone call so that she can talk to the kids.
Tridoc, It'll be another day or so before I have the time to get online again and check up on you, but keep in touch. It does get better.
Take care.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
Well, we're getting a good look at what at least the child-rearing part of D would look like.
W has been visiting her mom for the past week, and I have been home with the boys. These last 2 days are rough because I am trying to both care for them properly, and work, and neither of those tasks are getting done well. The boys are also missing their mom and are asking for her frequently.
Tomorrow she arrives home and I depart immediately for a business trip - 3 days this week and 5 days next - so she will be at home by herself with the boys and also trying to both work and care for them.
You know, I have often thought that D'd life would actually not be all that bad - 50% frantically focusing on the kids, and 50% free to focus on work, myself, a social life, etc. is sounding like a pretty good deal.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
