Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

soleil, thank you for your help. Hearing your POV helps me try to understand what my own W might be thinking now. When you separated from your H did you tell him that you wanted to end the marriage even though you might have wanted to work on the marriage? I'm curious because my W only says she wants to divorce but I don't know if she is looking for changes in me to think about reconsidering.

My W texted me again this morning to see if I received her emails yesterday about taking her name of the bills and scheduling a joint counseling session to bring closure to the marriage. She also called me and left a voice mail this evening to say the same. She wants to go to counseling to help me understand why she wants a divorce. Said this will help me. All of a sudden she has contacted me four times in the past two days. I haven't heard from her in the past three weeks. I still have not contacted her back yet. I feel exhausted from all of this and I don't want to respond to her until I can think clearly. Trying to set some boundaries.

Still don't understand how after 19 years together my W wants to end our wonderful marriage and not work on it...not even try? Again, no huge issues as I see it. Nothing that can't be fixed.

Sandi2 and others, any tips are appreciated. Thanks for the support during this difficult time.