Trying to keep hope alive

[TrentC]

I have started the detachment....no rings, taken down all pics of him (including wedding). Scary but reality I guess

That's not detachment. Detachment is allowing yourself to let go of responsibility for his actions and reactions.

Here is a good article about detachment:

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

[scared n alone]

TrentC

WOW, what an article. I'm surprised it didn't have my name at the top. What I found most interesting in at the place titled "types of toxic relationship", Ours is 13 out of the 20.

I started highlighting pertinent things about me and the need and i found out i was just highlighting everything. I have found myself saying that he is "lost" and I just want to be there when he "figures" it out.......textbook! As the weeks have gone on, i have realizized that I cannot change or control his behavior. I have also realized that my self esteem is in the crapper.

It was a smack in the face to let me see that i am in ways...out of control and for my kids and myself, i need to take it back. My actions have been unhealthy.

I tell myself all the time that he isn't coming back and there isn't a darn thing I can do about it. I have come a long way in 9 weeks and just see me going a long ways more.

Thanks for chiming in on my situation. Please stay and continue to do so.

[TrentC]

I'm glad that you found it worthwhile.