so you mentioned H passed the test...are you talking about the phone issue?? what did you/he say?
and since he has always been stuck to the phone...this is gonna be a little hard. but if you make it out that you would like to regain more trust for him, and you've noticed that your having a harder time with it and feel it would help if he was more open with his cell phone, as it seems to be hidden more than it used to be.
I would try to make it as much about you as possible, so it doesn't sound like your blaming him for something (which he will probably think your overreacting, but your goal is to get him to be more open about it, so you don't want him to become defensive)
usually on subject regarding boundaries, I usually start with a question. like when my H was having "friendly" contact after we got back together I started..."H, I just wanted to ask you what you felt what appropriate with your contact with OW" then he said, probably none. so that was easy to go with! of course he started to get a little defensive during the convo saying he's not calling her and it's just as friends. lol but the best way to do things with a man is to try to get them to believe it's their idea. they don't want to be told what to do.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
