Wife wants best of both worlds

[ClingingToHope]

I need to emotionally remove myself from her and accept the situation for what it is.

I did a bunch of family time on Christmas with W and her family and the girls loved it.

But I did it because we are still married. If we D -- and I'm meeting with a L Wednesday to see my options -- I'm not going to do any family time for at least a year.

Birthdays will be hard, but I'll make big deals of my time with them.

Maybe after a year I'll be OK and the pain will lessen and it will become normal.

All this family time may be confusing your kids as well.