My story, what to do next.

[Ready2Change]

WAW's out there can you help me answer this?

I am not WAW but have insight. Search "Smart cookie" and read her last post. read all her posts.

when my wife dropped the bomb, my initial reaction was that we need to figure out where we went wrong and work on our problems. Her response was that I have been working on it for 14 years and now I am done.

Your best response would be listening,understanding and validation. REASONING DOES NOT WORK. "Yes, I can see why you would be done" is a better response. She wants to be understood.

I immediately say that my car can break down, I pull it into the garage and begin working on it for 14 years, but if I don't know what's wrong and don't have the tools to fix it how could I ever expect to get it running again. she is not impressed with my story. i thought it was a very accurate assessment of the sitch.

TWO POINTS OF VIEW. One is an emotional , the other is logical.