Originally Posted By: SpyBunny
She also said the same thing you all said, I need to treat this like an addiction, and that I'm doing what's in a weird way "normal" and familiar for me. I have to learn new behaviors to break the cycle and start making new connections in my brain, namely that I don't need to sleep with anyone to feel validated or receive approval or love. Now that I've told her, I'm accountable to someone IRL, and she's my sponsor and I call her when I start feeling drawn to this stuff again. And she agreed- H did a bigger number on my mind than we gave him credit for originally.

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So I'm letting it go legally, the bigger issue for me is to figure out how I got myself into that situation and to process the emotions that go with it.


And you wonder why we all think you are so great for working through this all!


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."