<<Who judges infidelity? The act itself or the stresses that led to it? How do you factor in dysfunction? What about abrupt departure? Would you look at me differently if I'd had the affair because I popped like a zit?>>
Gyps.....oh boy did you hit a nerve here.....
I apologize in advance for the hijack.... I am not perfect, not a saint and I consider myself to be pretty liberal. I can almost forgive a one night stand or three. Or a brief affair. But I will be damned if I am going to share the blame for a cheating WAS's lack of integrity. I just can NOT do it. I would think less of you ..... yes. How many times did I have the opportunitty to take LJ out for some fresh air...maybe things were not going very well. However, I decided to keep my undies on. They (the adulterers) at some point had to make a conscious decision to drop them or spread their legs (like I told my XW a few years ago). They all know the potential consequences, some think they will not get caught and others don't even care. Still others decide to break up a family because they are selfish...it is ALL about them. Voila, my take on infidelity and am holding back. Like Kerry said; you are not happy, you do not think you can work it out....fine....end the marriage or relationship and move on. Please don't blame yourself for the lack of moral fibre of your ex spouse. Sorry if this sounds judgemental.
