My story, what to do next.

[digger22]

I could get her to switch houses with me no problem. I just felt for the kids sake, I didn't want to cause them the pain of not having their mom, but looking back, wtf she is causing them to lose their dad.
Her thought's are that its better for the kids to grow up in an envirornment where the parents don't fight. I say that we both come from divorced homes, I want to make you happy, but I don't understand you and you don't understand me. Let's work on ourselves, get this relationship to the best place it could be and then decide if we should be together. She is going to counseling for herself right now, reading men are from mars, listening to light his fire, reading a book on patience (which is something she has absolutely none of) she just started working on herself so that I am hopeful to see some realization soon. Her current statement is that "I like who I am" (100% sure she won't feel the same way in a while)

WAW's out there can you help me answer this?
when my wife dropped the bomb, my initial reaction was that we need to figure out where we went wrong and work on our problems. Her responce was that I have been working on it for 14 years and now I am done. I immediately say that my car can break down, I pull it into the garage and begin working on it for 14 years, but if I don't know what's wrong and don't have the tools to fix it how could I ever expect to get it running again. she is not impressed with my story. i thought it was a very accurate assesment of the sitch.

thanks for all the support
all your help is appreciated.