Scared and need advice

[avermont]

Dear LFA--

I have just finished your thread. Yes, our ditches are similar. The just walking away, no contact---like I never existed.

Thanks so much for sharing your story. I am working so hard on getting in touch with my anger(instead of just feeling guilty) and detaching.

I would like to continue NC, but we will have to deal with tenants soon and taxes.

I am scared to do the taxes, because it will lead into dicussion about house.

I don't necessarily want the house, but I can't accept him moving OW in. Which means I'm not detached, right?

As I can't use the timeline of divorce to slow things down, I may just have to stand my ground on "I'm not ready" which then shows I haven't GAL and moved on from this heartless jerk! Ooh, look, some anger!

Again--the balance of detaching yet dealing with physical things that need to get sorted out...

You have gained so much wisdom, LFA. I hope I can learn from you.