The only thing I can think of is thru-out the entire M I have always considered her to be controlling. I could'nt be out of her sight for more than 5 minutes without having to check in. I lost the few good friends I had because of that. Geez, and then when cell phones came along It really got bad.
So, this kind of makes sense now that I think about it, but it's just still so irrationale and in my opinion, smothering. I mean, I had to sit here an hour ago and explain to her on the phone ('cause text messaging is not good enough for her anymore, "she NEEDS to hear my voice") what my every move of my every action I plan to take tonight is. And that's just crazy.
Yes, it is, in my opinion. But you know what they say about "Fool me once . . . fool me twice," y'know?
Seems to me that God has given you a "do-over," and this is your opportunity to rebuild a NEW relationship with her, based on mutual trust and respect and healthy boundaries. I think you'll regret it 'til the day you die if you start to acquiesce to this type of controlling behavior from her again.
It really got bad. 
