That is true. The thing is that I don't see where he was actually controlling in this case. He established his boundary and came here to gripe about what his W was doing. That's pretty much what we all do.
Sure his W doesn't have to honor his request, but for him to make that boundary is for him. Not her. He has to get her respect even if it's not to get her back, because even if that D, they are still going to have to take care of the kids together.
He will get that respect from her one step at a time and establishing the boundary is a good way to go. Let's face it, even though he let that bit of anger show through last week, he hasn't been obsessing about her AS MUCH as he had in the past.
We all understand that detaching is the way to DB and he hasn't gotten to that "lightbulb" moment yet. I know he'll get there. Rome wasn't built in a day and suspect neither will Kevin's DBing.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
