A Choice

[patpat]

TrentC / Lotus

Yes I have.. I always do... "Never let the Sun set on your anger", I have been good about that.

Problem: "I always do"... I have done this to W more than a couple of times. I treated W like one of the guys, not like the beautiful loving person she once was... and I pray, will be again.

She just had enough. I realize this. I did this too myself. She played her part, but I know that it only takes one to make a difference. The other will follow in due time. I should have been a better husband, better friend , a better lead. I tried to be, but did not have the right motivation for doing so. I have learned so much from the folks here.

had I done all the changes in my life back then for me, instead of for her, my sitch would be different.

Today, I have learned something about myself. I WILL BE JUST FINE BY MYSELF. I AM NOT AFRAID OF 2MORROW!

I AM NOT AFRAID OF 2MORROW!

I AM NOT AFRAID OF THE OUTCOME OF MY SITCH

I WILL REMAIN FOCUSED ON MY GOAL, W and RECONCILIATION...

But I will follow my Do's and Don't list from Sandi2 and go forward..

Still a pinch sad though....

I love who I have become.... when I am not feeling down.

This DB thing, Gal'ing, 180's and my IC, mens christian group, church and a few close friends has changed my world.

I am alone for the first time in my life at 43....

I will be OK. I am smiling right now.... Thank you all!

[patpat]

and crying too....

[Lotus]

If it weren't for the valleys in life, we would never appreciate the highs. This too shall pass. Sounds like you have your head on straight. Maybe she will notice in time.

[patpat]

Lotus

Maybe she will, but not while she is still seeing OM.

The OM thing bothers me, but not like it did at the start. I mean, don't get me wrong, I am pissed about this whole thing. I am not trying to justify her actions, but what has happened has happened.

I have run into a road block trying to bust A. Has not worked yet. Others have told me that in this case, because most fail anyway, to try to be strong and wait it out. Sometimes, this is all you can do. Meanwhile, Gal, DB, and 180.

I am doing the best I can.

Is head screwed on straight... Glued on more like it. Everyday is getting easier. But if not for that glue, I'd have thrown head off the bridge by now....LOL

Thanks for being there. I have not read your post; I will check out your sitch later this evening.... Thanks again

PS... I think W wants to come home... It may be wishful thinking, but you are right only time will tell. W can hold grudge and be stubborn to no avail... I may be in trouble...

[kara]

((((PATPAT)))

You are doing well. I think you handled the carpark encounter beautifully. I know you had some down moments today but this too shall pass. Hugs and prayers coming your way.

Kara

[patpat]

Update

W called this morning.... mad. She was mad because I did not call her Saturday and tell her co-workers wanted to kick OM butt. She asked me what I say to OM when I got there. I told her. She said that was what he said. She said she was not mad at me for going over there, but she never stood up for me like that. Kinda pissed me off.

W stopping by today to pick up mail..

I'll let you know how it goes!


God Bless you all!

[Lotus]

She'll get over it. Let's see, whose relationship with OM is a greater transgression, yours or hers?

[patpat]

Lotus....

as always... you put things right into perspective for me. Too bad she will prob. not see it this way though, at least for now.

Thanks

[soleil]

as always... you put things right into perspective for me. Too bad she will prob. not see it this way though, at least for now.

Not your problem, Pat, cause right now you are focusing on YOU.

Happy new year, by the way

[4luv]

Pat,

Haven't commented lately but way to go on the OM confrontation. You words were spot on. Don't let wife drag you into an argument if she is still upset about it. Those are her feelings to deal with and not yours. Her decisions have led to her feelings of being upset by the situation that she has caused. Just listen but do not defend your actions or argue with her would be my advice. Continuing to pray for you. Keep up the good work...you have really done some good work on yourself.