I don't see you making one bit of difference on the kid/OM situation. I wouldn't even try unless you have some sort of proof that he is not a good influence on your kids. I wouldn't bring it up again. I wouldn't ask your kids about it.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
