My D14 has been in counseling for awhile and it has helped her alot. She was on a serious self destructive path.
D17 wouldn't touch it with a 10 foot pole. IMO, if you "make" her go, it won't be helpful. Personal experience there.
I know exactly what you mean about having to deal with all the emotions. It used to kill me that H didn't see alot of the "first" reactions. Now, I count myself lucky to be the one that gets a glimpse of what's going on.
It's really hard, no two ways about it. Hang in there.
