Who judges infidelity? The act itself or the stresses that led to it? How do you factor in dysfunction? What about abrupt departure? Would you look at me differently if I'd had the affair because I popped like a zit?
Paying out of a sense of obligation for promises not kept is a beautiful thing, yet rare.
I decided after the divorce was signed that regardless of how I felt that I'd embrace that I got the best settlement possible. Yes.. I get annoyed that others did better in some areas. So when I wallow I get annoyed. It doesn't change anything.
So if I want to spit in the wind, my answer is yes. Otherwise, it doesn't matter.
