Of course you didn't think Christmas would confuse the kids because your focus w/Christmas was to take a "gamble" and try and "win" your W back. THOSE WERE YOUR WORDS VERBATIM. Instead of worrying about that you perhaps should have thought about THE ROLE YOU PLAY IN CONFUSING THE CHILDREN.
I don't care if you believe in Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny and the tooth fairy. You cannot FORCE anybody to believe in those same things. You cannot force ANYBODY to operate under the principles in which you believe life should be conducted. Perhaps your W is dating so much because she is looking for somebody with a more open mind.
What mess are your kids being pulled into? Seeing their mother, who has been separated for over a year spending time with other men?
What about the mess they got pulled into when you took off to Florida leaving them because you couldn't deal with things? What about the mess you pulled them into when you passed a good job on to your W and were drinking all the time? How are those things any less damaging? IMO they are not.
Your W doesn't want to be with you. And if you don't trust her as a mother why in hell would you want to be with her? It makes no sense to me at all.
