Is there ANY hope? Looking for a glimmer...

[dday101798]

Heinrich,

I'll give you some hope my friend. As long as you do what you need to do for yourself, not her, I know easier said than done, there is always a chance.

My sitch, similar in own right, we fell apart for about the same duration of time (seems common). My (x)W was going through a hard time with the death of her mother and acting out, and all I could do was sit back and crack open one too many cold ones every dang night until, poof, she was gone, like yours, "new" man, new life, up and took the boys without a care in the world, "they were gonna make it and be so happy".

Hash through a nasty D and everybody's lives turned upside down, and things work their course. Your W has a daily reminder everyday in the look of your children's faces of what's going on. All the good things you do/did come back to light and all the sudden, you're not so bad afterall, nor was the M and the whole "new" way was all wrong.

That's where I'm at. D'd, but with an (x)W whose bound and determined to get everything back together that that 'new' life just couldn't amount to. We're doing well in my opinion, but it's not easy, know that. You simply need to let her go and all the issues you may have along with her. Again, easier said than done, but If you would have asked me if I'd be where I am now a year and half, year or couple months ago, I would've said no way.