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This entire thing is wrong. It is all wrong. It is plainly and simply wrong.


This exemplifies the issue.

It is wrong to you, and according to your beliefs.

It is right to your STBXW, according to her beliefs.

Which one is right?

Neither. Because there is no wrong or right, there just 'is' the way things 'are'

According to your beliefs, you can make this 'right' if you can just change or influence something that is completely outside your control.

That is a completely unhealthy way to think and live. It gets you nothing but more of the same thing that you have currently.

Is that what you want? More of the same?

If it isn't, and god I hope that it isn't.

What can you change to get something different from now on?

I'd like to give you a hint to the answer to the question above, but you must find the answer on your own, or it will mean nothing to you.

M: 41
STBXW: 41
D: 9
Bomb: 4/26/09

On board the D train now..

"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."