Forget the fact that I am a parent and actually have an opinion on what is better for their lives. No, I am controlling. Unreal.
It is not that your thoughts for your children that are the issue, it is your reasoning that drives you that is the issue.
You should have your kids best interest in mind. Everything you do should be about you and your kids best interest.
Note that your STBXW is not in that statement. She is not your W currently, nor does she want to be, nor is she in your best interest.
However, the things she does may be in her best interest for her kids, even if they conflict with what you want. And you need to accept that.
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It had everything to do with trying to protect my kids from being pulled into choices being made by W that I do not believe are in the best interest of our kids.
If this is your reasoning above for the D, then I am sorry, but it IS about controlling or punishing your STBXW. How you can state this, and not see this, is testament to how much you need to work on yourself in this matter. Do you know the Serenity Prayer?
Does being Legally M influence at all your W's current behavior?
So why would getting a D change that?
Do you see the 'Control' issue in either of the two last statements?
"Influence"=="Control"
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
