you don't have to miss your kids, you still need to pursue joint custody, smarten up bro, you're actually learning some useful stuff from all this interaction with her.
- her "bf" cheats on her but she still goes back to him, so he treats her badly but she still goes back to him - she pursues him, not the other way around and that's what works, that is your lesson, no more pursuing, no more taking care of her, detach, drop the rope and move on and act as if life is awesome - pursue having your kids for 50% of the time, why you would let that go is beyond me, are you giving up on them as well?
Start dating, she still has it in her head that your pursuing her and she'll continue to keep you at distance until you actually move on - when she gets it in her head that you aren't pursuing her anymore and don't want her anymore, that's when she would start pursuing you if that ever happens, why would it happen before then?
