Ultimately, I just want to DB the heck out of this and eventually win my W back and my family back. That is what would be best for all of us in the end.
Here's the attitude and control issues we keep trying to point out to you.
You can't WIN your W back. She's gone Kevin. You need to man up and realize that. And WINNING her back will just push her farther away. She has free will Kevin. She has to WANT to come back. And back shouldn't even be in your vocabulary. Why would she want to come BACK to the same ol' Kevin? A new and improved self-sufficient, stand on his own two feet Kevin? Maybe ....
And you keep saying what would be best for all involved. Their are four people involved Kevin and you are only one of them. You can't possibly know what's best for all involved. If your counselor hasn't pointed this out to you, I would seriously get a new one.
If I was you, these would be my 2010 goals:
1. Realize my marriage is over. 2. Admit my part in it. 3. Change those things in me that need to be changed. 4. Take care of my girls. 5. Detach from W.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
