Why can't I just do it!?

[The Wifey]

But it is time for SOMEthing different to happen. And (as was pointed out by, was it Couch or GIMA?) there are two choices- put the marriage back together or take it apart. The third choice of sitting still has not an option any more. Besides, isn't sitting in limboland almost the same as taking the marriage apart? Only passively?

No one ever has a right to talk you out of being done or telling you to be done. It is up to you. If you really want to move on then do it.

But there may be a reason why you can't hit send.

This is my first time posting to you, dear, but I have to share my perspective. Limboland sucks. Right out loud, and it is tough to go through, for sure. But, and I admit I'm not completely up on your sitch, what is the hurry?

Sitting still is sometimes exactly what you need to do in terms of a relationship. That doesn't mean the rest of your life stops. You GAL, you set goals, you do and experience and grow.

Concentrate on your own growth, on letting go, on avoiding expectations. If you don't want to get D, then you don't file. Does that come with consequences? You bet. But you have the rest of your life. Why does everything have to be "solved" in this exact moment.

I've been here a long time, and that is just how I see it. Getting beyond the pain is hard, but you will never know what you are made of until you do.

If you really want to move on, do it. It won't be a struggle to hit send - if you are really sure.