One of those goals includes not being reactive anymore, but proactive.
Kevin
How are you going to be proactive? We have already discussed that there isnt much you can do about the OM's in W's life with your kids. You have told her how you felt..that is about all you can do.
So what can you do proactively besides that? To me, you had a better mindframe when you were pissed at her. You were ready to end the M because of the OM and the kid situation. Now you are backing off on that and standing for your M again.
Getting a D does not mean that maybe down the road if both you and W change and both want the M you cannot R. But sitting there passively waiting and watching her live her life like a single woman with multiple OM's doesn't seem like the right thing to do..even for your girls.
What would you do if say down the road one of your girls was in the exact same situation with her husband...he is having affairs, living separate as a single man, hurting your precious daughter every single day, and on and on...what would you tell her? I bet you would tell her to get out and D...he doesn't seem like a guy to be married to and he likes his life the way it is.
Kevin, she isn't waffling. She isn't looking back. She is moving on as a single woman without the consequences of having to go thru D.
Sorry to be harsh..I know how you feel. I live it everyday.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
