Nomad,

Retrouvaille is an incredible experience. It will do wonders for your relationship. (And it will deal with that "you never..." thing.) There is a thread in Piecing with a lot of great info about Retro on hit. Here's a link to it. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1597090&page=1