Sorry to hear that T. Yes, a lot of us are lurking on your thread, and I just hadn't refreshed in the last couple days. Hang in there!
Just found out my darling is visiting tonight. Extremely skittish, just like you're experiencing. Hang in there, and thanks for the Psalm 77!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I have beem here.. just kind of in a rut and did not feel much like posting.. There have been somemore positives in my sitch it's just me trying to get over my funk.. Have to agree with your statement about your dog.. Here I am still married and w still living here and still my dog is my best friend. take care buddy..I will update my post in the morning Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I'm glad that your spirits are not falling. she still has barriers to to climb and will probably have to do that herself. you just be consistent in the way God wants you to be, and show your love in the way she needs to be shown.
patience and love
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Tomato, I've been praying for her to have some clarity. She needs to give you some answers, something to go on. What is she going to do? Patience for you, my friend.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
well, i suppose i could look at that question several ways. they are somewhat better in that my life is not being de-stabilized by her impetuous and haphazard living pretty much. seemingly, she has what she was wanting .. autonomy to 'crash & burn' with her own decisions and not having to compromise on her own warped thinking and living.
She is living a distorted truth. If even a half-truth. If that is the mirage she wants to liv with then so be it. If she wants to select a distant second, third or perhaps even fourth place version of life then so be it. While surely I am not without a host of flaws, I have a willingness and capability to provide myself and her with a first-class life. She seems to want to choose something other.
I am reducing my rather wasted efforts at helping her and increasing those to help others and myuself.
You can't help somebody who who has zero receptivity to that help.
i vistited her new apartment (which just so happen to be a mere 300 yards away from the one that I got for the two of us ..or so I thought). It is a good sized 1 BR identical to the layout of the one she walked out of. Her furniture consists of a full sized deluxe airmattress & ...well and that is it. She does have a nice 42" HD TV. I will have to ask her how she managed to get the TV I have always wanted to get. Maybe she will have it paid off in another 10-20 years & will have paid 10-20 X more than it could ever be worth in finance charges.
She is as happy as a clam I would imagine cuz she lives for her TV and movie watching. Countless hours.
