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iwantittowork,

I am not trying to control W. I was trying to think about how I can protect my girls from this. It has nothing to do with controlling her or her choices. I have no say in what she decides to do with her life. I don't try to have a say in it. But I do try and watch out for my girls and what they may be thrown into and if there is any way I can prevent them being affected by it. As a parent, that is my job.

As far as talking to the C. Again this is not about control so much as what do I do now about what my W has chosen to involve my girls in and how to best aleviate further incidents/unwise choices/etc involving my kids.

You may not understand this or agree with this and that is fine. But I will be watching out for my kids and exploring where I need to to best protect them from this mess any way I can.

This will never happen. Take this off your goal list. Until you do, you will continue to be stuck in this rut.

You just issued me a straight challenge. I intend to post this on my wall as motivation. I will learn and I will succeed. And it will have nothing to do with trying to control or manipulate my W. I will not stop looking out for what is in the best interest of my kids. It doesn't matter whether W agrees or you agree or anyone else agrees. What matters is that I will take whatever precautions I can to protect my kids against this mess regardless of someone else's opinions. I won't budge on doing whatever I can to protect them. I will certainly seek advice on how best to approach it, but I will not stop looking out for their best interests.

I appreciate what you are trying to say, but I don't necessarily see eye to eye with your latest post today. I fail to see how looking into options to protect my kids from a huge mess is me backsliding. If I didn't care what was thrown their way and try to prevent more damage being done to them, I wouldn't be acting as a true parent to them.

Kevin