No Pam, maybe just more questions... but wouldn't that take me in a circle?
It's sad, really and depressing when one thinks about it. And still we usually have the need to know. Actually with his 1st affair I was smarter.... I had written down a list of things that I absolutely had to know and wa waiting for him to be able to answer. And as time passed by, I realized I didn't really need to know many of the things I felt so important before. I don't know how I got so wise, but indeed some things are not that important anymore. They actually defeat the purpose by using up our energy thinking about it. I'm sure everyone needs to know the main facts.. but details.... let me go again.... Not really! THe path is forward, not backwards. THe focus is on your relationship, not theirs. The goal is your marriage, not the affair. Me... I know too many details... Hugsies, going for dinner now nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
:)