Welcome to the board (and sorry you find yourself here).
I am a WAW so my responses will be from that POV:
Originally Posted By: mza8
Hello I said that I want to fight for our marriage. I said that I hope that she would consider MC with me.
Good. You have let her know that you are willing to do anything to save the marriage. She knows you are open to it so she is thinking about it, trust me. In the meantime, continue IC on your own.
Originally Posted By: mza8
I realize she may need to see this consistency for a while first and that’s fine.
Yes, she will. So continue doing what you are doing to better yourself.
Originally Posted By: mza8
They also told me that my wife has no bad feelings towards me and wishes the best for me. I really dislike that comment. How can you wish the best for your husband when you left them?
It's entirely possible. It's be awful to wish ill will upon your spouse, IMO.
Originally Posted By: mza8
Do most WAW go this fast to and take these steps in such a short amount of time? Does this mean there is no hope for reconciliation?
In my experience, the WAS didn't just decide to leave overnight. Personally, when I look back on my sitch, the issues started well over a year before I made the move, and became worse and worse over time. From what I've read, "they" (the experts/studies) say the same...the person who leaves has somewhat already detached themself from the relationship because they've known for awhile the situation isn't working. When you think back, did she ever say or do anything that gave you an indication that there was a problem. You mentioned that for 2 years she'd been telling you about the job issue.
Originally Posted By: mza8
Does this mean there is no hope for reconciliation? I feel like dividing our things just puts another nail in the coffin for the marriage.
I believe there is still hope for R. And the reason is because you have taken activ steps to improve yourself, have sought out IC, meds, gotten a job, and TOLD HER that you are willing to fight for your M. That speaks volumes and shows that you genuinely care. I am really pulling for you in this sitch.
