It sounds like she doesn't like to be alone, i.e. can't function without a man in her life. I would let her know that you want to take things slow and bulid a solid foundation. There were issues before OM and I think those things need to be worked on.
I am wishing you the best and you are so right not to rush in.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory