What you wrote in reference to my thoughts is what I SHOULD have done. Now that we know I didn't do exactly that, do I have any recourse to do/say those things?
I liked this: "When you're ready to get all these third people out of our marriage, and work on it, let me know. In the meantime, I'm not really sure how I feel about remaining married to someone who treats me so crappy."
I think this would be a good boundary to establish with her, as I am so far away right now - thoughts?
Oh trust me, the way she's behaving right now, you'll have many more opportunities.
