puppy, should I send the letter anonymously? Also, the person that works in my W's HR dept, is also one of her friends, so don't think that will do much good. The corporate HR dept, is located in Dallas, I think this is a better option, should I send the letter there? What should I write? Thanks.
By all means go the Corp. HR route if local HR is a friend of hers, but I would "cc" the local HR dept. And NO, you do NOT do it anonymously!! That would be viewed as WEAK. Remember, you are now operating from a viewpoint of "What is The Right Thing to Do in this instance? What is the thing that God Himself would have me do, if He were standing here in front of me?" -- remember? So, if it's "The Right Thing to Do," why would you hide behind anonymity? That would be tantamount to doing what cheaters do, when they proclaim their love is "special," yet they want to lie about it to everyone in their life.
My wife was seething, and asked me "Did you send a letter to the owner of the gym about me and (OM)??!" Very calmly, I said "Yes I did." No further explanation, just "Yes I did." She then, if I remember, said "Did you REALLY think that would help you get back together with me?" or something like that, to which I said "That didn't enter my mind either way. I did it because I felt it was the right thing to do." She then told me how PISSED she was, and I validated -- "I understand, you're livid. I would be too, if the situation were reversed. I'm really not doing anything based on how angry it makes you anymore, I'm just trying to do what's best for me and my family right now."
