Maybe I should have made that post as more of a generalised comment since I didn't mean it in response to your particular sitch but more toward some of the other posts where it was said the S didn't realize where they were until they were in it (para-phrasing here ).
My sitch was much the same as Stupidfoolishwife posted. I warned H about OW the first time I met her. Got many of the same responses...not my type,too obnoxious etc. H didn't heed my warning...one thing led to another...blah, blah,blah. H tried to cover his tracks by constantly denigrating her which of course instantly got my warning bells ringing.
My question is...how come we women are better at not crossing the boundary line? Maybe I should clarify that by saying "married" women. Then there is the question of why do some women make it a point/habit of actively pursuing married men? I know there are tons of psychological explanations for that but from my feminine perspective...well, it just makes no sense because nine times out of ten the OW gets tossed away. With H's OW it is a habitual process...he wasn't her first M man nor will he be her last...yet she wonders why no one will marry her?
It just seems to me that we are better at maintaining our moral standards then our H's or men in general. One could hypothesize and point to statistics etc. as to WHY this is so I guess...I don't know, it's just one of those little things that really irks me
Quote: However I find the rule to be stop before you're getting personal. If it's something they wouldn't say if I was present, then it certainly is something they shouldn't say when I'm not present.
I'm with Shiny and the others...couldn't agree more that this is an EXCELLENT rule of thumb. Unfortunately in our sitch's it seems to only apply for us "gooses" and not the "ganders"
Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
