ignore her, let her go, she's too deep in that WAW fog for anything you say or do to have any effect, she has admitted that she is still communicating with him, all you can do is maintain boundaries for what she can/can't do with regards to you, she however is free to do whatever she wants.
I gave you an outline of what's going on with her and what you would need to do to get her to wake up if that's even possible at this point. You can do that or just entirely drop the rope, detach, don't communicate with her, if she wants to talk, make it just about the kids, anything else just tell her you aren't interested in talking to her anymore. Stop reacting angrily and emotionally, when you do that you show that you still have emotions for her, let go and move on, even if it's just acting - just do it.
I try to ignore her, it hasn't worked. She is very persistant and confrontational.
I wish I could calm down b/c I know she goading me into a fight. She knows how to do it. After she hit me I put my fist thru a couple of walls. I feel so stupid.
She'll be gone after today.
Do I let the charges stand?
M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.
Yes, OB. No matter how hard it is and no matter how ridiculous it seems, follow through with the DIR and have a restraining order put in place. There is no need for violence in any of this and she and any other person who feels they are so all-mighty to abuse another person should be taught a lesson no matter how belittling it is.
If your wife thinks so little of you as to hit you over nothing, she has pyschological issues that need to dealt with before she should be allow to see the children unsupervised. PERIOD.
It is called VIOLENCE. It is ABUSE.
If you do not you are allowing it to occur and opening yourself up to the day a knife is thrown at you, or she tries to run you over with her car, or the worst, the day she punches your daughter down the stairs over a stupid f***ing hair cut you bought her. Do not let that happen to you. too.
She would have never called the cops, she took my cr*p for years? Said I was a drunk, said i doubted the marriage, said her A is now, all of my A's she just took it.
Still dealing with FOG. If she would listen and believe what she KNOWS as the truth - she'd be better off.I looked at her while she was telling me and I knew it was just mental masturbation to plan her attack and justify her actions.
I said "Please we can replay everything again or we can move forward civilly towards your resolution. Which is Divorce, you wanted it, you got it. Please limit your time here out of respect for me. I won't keep you from your kids but You wanted a divorce, it's time to act like you are divorced."
Plan today is to get her off all accounts.
M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.
Over, her hitting you is NOT okay under any circumstances. It's a line I believe should never be crossed. As hard as it is, please stop reacting to her.
Stopping mine just took an office visit and I signed a document reversing everything I had signed before. I don't remember what that doc was called but L knew what to do. That was sent to Coach's L and that was that.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
