Nightshade - I agree w/ you on how easy it is to get started in an affair. I have always been cautious about how close I would let the men around me get or what types of conversations I had w/ them. My H on the other hand would not listen I told him not to talk about personal issues w/ ow or to talk about things of a sexual nature w/ them but it was useless. He became friends w/ a woman at work and all the time I warned him that he needed to be carefull and he insisted that there was no way he would have any of those kinds of feelings w/ her (citing her appearance as one reason-not too good looking). I also said -well then be carefull that she doesn't start to feel that way towards you. Well after months of non-stop talking to one another they ended up in bed together. So he went from just friends w/ someone he described as overweight and somewhat obnoxious to thinking about moving in w/ her and starting a real relationship. It happens much too easily and it is because the person allows it. He was given much warning but decided to overlook it not out of stupidity but because he wanted to.
