Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Ok, been at work today. Feels good to be working again.

I have some thoughts:

1. When I was "home" W and I discussed other man/men. She denied any sexual contact-I know that is a lie. If/when we go to counseling, is this when I address this? What if she continues to deny in counseling? I KNOW she slept with at least 2 OM.

2. W tried to explain the PI report to me that the date was wrong, they were just friends, she wasn't in his room - "you know me better than that". I kept telling her to stop lying, but she persisted, and changed the subject. STILL hasn't admitted to any wrongdoing.

3. W talked to me about OM from dallas-they went hiking, took some pictures-which she sent me one, SHE kissed him, nothing else has happened, he gave her an black onyx ring for X-mas. When I told her that the relationship needed to end for us to begin to work on our M, W replied with "I don't know how I feel right about him right now" "OM and I would never work out-his family is full of doctors, lawyers, professionals, and I am not on their level", "it's hard to end something that hasn't gotten started, we're friends right now"

4. I told W when we were talking at home that I wouldn't share her with OM. Do I need to tell her that from time to time, to remind her of my boundary?

5. We spoke of counseling, and working on our issues to rebuild our M before I left, do I bring that up to her to remind her of what we talked about? We BOTH agreed to go to counseling, but the last text I got from W concerning our M was "Im not sure of anything right now Soldier Dad"


Interested in any thoughts on this. Thanks.