I'm not so sure about them getting themselves into something without realizing it. H tried to tell me his A was something that "just happened". Lightening striking you out of a clear blue sky when you're standing in the yard is something that "just happens" and while I can see an EA creeping up on a person, taking it to the physical level is a conscious choice. They are well aware that what they are doing then is wrong but in their selfishness will figure out a way to justify it in order to absolve themselves of the guilt and carry on with their pleasure. Humans are DRIVEN by their pleasure...EVERYTHING we do, work,play, goal-seek etc, is done to evoke our pleasure stimulus...make us FEEL good.
My H asked me "what did you EXPECT me to do?" MY reply, "it's quite simple...you could have been responsible and just said NO." He didn't like that answer at the time...he just stared at me for a couple of minutes then turned around and walked away. He had absolved himself of the responsibility for his actions, I put the responsibility back.
JMO, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
