Hey sunbeam, I sent you an email... What struck me was that your H is kind of doing something he really wasnt doing before..and thats meeting you half way more now. Like leaving his phone out, asking for your help to block her email (have you done that? Are you going to?) and buying you more personal gifts and not just gadgets (and trying to get you those shoes.. no man has ever attempted to buy me shoes!) Maybe he did listen to your list of demands, it just took him a while (HIS timezone, not yours!) to get around to tackling them. Not all the things you asked, but a bit more than before?
I still dont understand the lack of intimacy..but argueing wont help, no. But you know you shouldnt throw spiteful words at him, even withouth the S and piecing, but thats the old maria.. and you know better now..right !? But I found too, like addie that in many ways, we have slipped back into old patterns, or dynamics of our old R, but it IS better than before.
Your son is amazing, thats very sweet. And I assume your H isnt going anywhere although neither of you dare say that becuase you are both still cautious, or tell your daughter. I'm so glad you let him come back in though...
How about quietly clearing some of that closet space to make 'room' for him, without making a big deal out of it?
Jupiters on its way !! Woohoo... xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
