I think that's the tough reality of the situation SD. Completely feeling the same way right now. There's nothing you can do to force your W through her journey and get her to where she needs to be for you to work together.
You're a good man. Maintain your integrity, accept the situation, and make the best of life for yourself. You deserve it.
Age: 28 Wife's Age: 28 Relationship: 10 Years (dated on and off) Married: Less than one year Seperated: 1.75 years, finally served with D 4/30/2011