Any tips to deal with Jealousy on my part

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Well she is all packed up. I was planning on taking the day off to help her move. Most people are telling me not to help her but I disagree.

You may do. But they tell you that for a reason ... they know better. Let her move herself. You are just being needy, clingy and really really nice ... not what she wants. Take advice, you've not been through this before. We have. Take advice or ignore it. It's up to you.

It's really cool though because your W is having an affair and you help her move. You're such a nice guy. What does she have to do to not help her move?

I want her to see me as the good guy during the move before I go grey or black.

She won't see you as a good guy regardless of what you do,. She will see you as needy, clingy and a guy who help's her move out ... she will see you as a sap, nothing more.

From what I can tell, she is in fact having an EA with somebody over the phone / internet (listented to her talk to this person). But I see no evidence of any current or past PA. Still scares that crap out of me thinking that it's possible.

Then why are you accepting this?

The person she is having an EA with may not even be male (not that this matters). I just don't know. Not knowing is torture for me. She is very convincing when she assures me that there is nobody. But from what I read here, WAW's and MLC wifes can be good liars. I really want to believe her. All I can do is give her the benefit of doubt.

Oh, they are not good liars. They are PERFECT liars. She is lying to you.

She has been acting a bit strange this weekend. She spent all day cleaning the kitchen and oven etc. I told her she didnt have to bother with that. Ironically, in the 20 years we lived there, the place never looked that clean.

What does your gut tell you? Accept what it does and move on from there ...